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Anonymous asked:

What is 50 shades of grey about? And what's so bad about it?

shelbymontanaharris:

dysonrules:

aconissa:

50 Shades of Grey was originally fanfiction based on the Twilight series, which was then published as a novel (along with 2 subsequent books). It sold over 100 million copies around the world and topped best-seller lists everywhere. It’s about to be adapted into a film, set to come out early next year.

It follows a college student named Ana Steele, who enters a relationship with a man named Christian Grey and is then introduced to a bastardised and abusive parody of BDSM culture.

While the book is paraded as erotica, the relationship between Ana and Christian is far from healthy. The core mantra of the BDSM community is “safe, sane and consensual”, and 50 Shades is anything but. None of the rules of BDSM practices (which are put in place to protect those involved) are actually upheld. Christian is controlling, manipulative, abusive, takes complete advantage of Ana, ignores safe-words, ignores consent, keeps her uneducated about the sexual practices they’re taking part in, and a multitude of other terrible things. Their relationship is completely sickening and unhealthy.

Basically, “the book is a glaring glamorisation of violence against women,” as Amy Bonomi so perfectly put it. 

It’s terrible enough that a book like this has been absorbed by people worldwide. Now, we have a film that is expected to be a huge box-office success, and will likely convince countless more young women that it’s okay not to have any autonomy in a relationship, that a man is allowed to control them entirely. It will also show many young men that women are theirs to play with and dominate, thus contributing to antiquated patriarchal values and rape culture.

REBLOG FOREVER.

And people wonder why I hate that book series! Stop popularizing rape culture seriously.

scienceyoucanlove:

How Dying Works

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The Dying Process

As technology helps us to live longer, it will also shape how we die. With a higher-brain definition of death, you’re gone when your personality is. With a whole-brain definition of death, you’ve lost the ability to breathe on your own again. Each breath provides the oxygen necessary for survival to the rest of the body. Very simply, dying starts to happen when your body doesn’t get the oxygen it needs to survive.

Different cells die at different speeds, so the length of the dying process depends on which cells are deprived of oxygen. The brainrequires a tremendous amount of oxygen but keeps very little in reserve, so any cutoff of oxygen to the brain will result in cell death within three to seven minutes; that’s why a stroke can kill so quickly. When blood is cut off from the heart, a heart attack occurs and can also take a life fairly swiftly. But since our bodies aren’t designed to last forever, sometimes the body’s systems just simply wear out. When someone dies of extremely old age, and the family is gathered around the deathbed, you’re basically observing the breakdown of these systems.

There are some outward signs that these systems are slowing down. The person will begin sleeping more to conserve the little energy that’s left. When that energy is gone, the individual may lose the desire to eat and then to drink. Swallowing becomes difficult and the mouth gets very dry, so forcing the person to eat or drink could cause choking. The dying person loses bladder and bowel control, but accidents will occur less frequently as those gastrointestinal functions shut down as well and he or she consumes less.

Any ­pain that the dying person feels at this point can usually be managed by a doctor in some way, but it can be unbelievably difficult to watch these final steps of a person’s life. The stage right before a person dies is called the agonal phase. The dying person is often disoriented, and it will seem like he or she can’t get comfortable. It will also seem, disconcertingly, that the person can’t catch a breath. There may be agonizing pauses between loud, labored breaths. If there is fluid built up in the lungs, then that congestion will cause a sound known as the death rattle. As the cells inside a person lose their connections, the person may start convulsing or having muscle spasms.

We can’t know exactly how the person is feeling at this point, though those who have had near-death experiences (NDE) seem to agree that the process isn’t painful. NDEs appear to have some common characteristics, including a feeling of peace and well-being, a sense of separation from the physical body and a sensation of walking through darkness to enter light. You can read more about NDEs in How Near-death Experiences Work.

Some doctors think that a near-death experience might be due to endorphins that the body releases at the actual moment of death [source: Nuland]. When the heartbeat and breath stop, the person is clinically dead. There’s no circulation, and no new reserves of oxygen are reaching cells. However, clinical death also denotes that this is a point where the process is reversible, by means of CPR, a transfusion or a ventilator.

The point of no return is biological death, which begins about four to six minutes after clinical death. After the heartbeat stops, it only takes that long for brain cells to begin dying from lack of oxygen. Resuscitation is impossible at this point.

What you think has happened to the essence of the person at this point is dependent on your religious and cultural beliefs. But as our examination of the postmortem body on the next page will reveal, there’s not a lot of time for sitting around and staring at the corpse.

read more from HowStuffWorks

photo one is  Death nature with shooting gear and flowers I by Jean Baptiste Oudry through wiki 

the second is Death of Cato by Gioacchino Assereto through wiki

wolf-and-kitten:

the-quiet-dominant:

hederafleuron:

darlinglittlegoddessfox:

50shadesofwhy:

It’s here. Thanks, fiftyshadesthemovie.

My thoughts, in the order I had them:

  1. What are ‘appropriate audiences’? What are they going to rate this movie?
  2. Dakota Johnson has got jumpy and nervous down pat.
  3. This…sure looks like Fifty Shades of Grey. We’ve got the blonde secretaries, Ana’s awkward clothing and generally awkward existence, and we’ve even got an actor for Christian Grey who looks okay in a suit but has an astoundingly boring face.
  4. This still looks creepy. Really creepy.
  5. The trailer is appropriately naked. Or perhaps inappropriately naked. Point is, it’s the right amount of naked for a book in which the people spend most of their time naked.
  6. Those moans at the end are real subtle and classy, just like Fifty Shades itself.
  7. BEYONCE??? BEYONCE, HOW COULD YOU DO A SPECIAL VERSION OF A SONG JUST FOR THIS MOVIE? HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME?

Seriously, it reminds me of twilight 110% Hopefully they exclude the abuse in the movie but not likely

^^That’s because 50 Shades was originally Twilight fan fiction entitled Master of the Universe.

Seriously.

It’s coming. The film we’re all going to hate, but all going to go see anyway.

I probably won’t go to see it (unless Kitten really, really wants me to) >.>

But let’s be honest, it’s probably going to just be your average romantic movie that Hollywood just loves to crap out every year to make a quick buck. I’d be shocked if there was really even that much bdsm involved at all.

I sincerely hope they leave out a lot the bdsm/abuse and focus on the vomit inducing soap opera love story. This relationship is not at all a healthy way to conduct any kind of BDSM…

mj-the-scientist:

smitethepatriarchy:

greenthepress:

smartercities:

Meet The 14-Year-Old Girl Who Developed A Low-Cost Water Purification System | FastCompany

The next generation of scientists is already hard at work solving our biggest problems. Take Deepika Kurup, a 14-year-old high school student from Nashua, New Hampshire. After seeing children in India drinking dirty water from a stagnant pool, she decided, in her words, “to find a solution to the global water crisis.” And then she actually made some progress towards that goal, developing a solar-powered water purification system.

She is the future

Ever notice how it’s always brilliant teenagers making stuff that will actually solve the world’s worst problems, like what do adults even do?

It’s because of teens like this that I never lose hope for the future.

taospet asked:

there is no amount of defending you can do that makes rape role play and fantasies ok its literally so trivializing to treat it like its not a bunch of disgusting adults getting off on things that ruin lives i fucking hate the internet i s2g

cailathefoxyfox:

taospet:

brunette-nymphette:

taospet:

brunette-nymphette:

taospet:

brunette-nymphette:

It’s really not of your business what consenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom. There is nothing wrong with adults who act out rape and incest fantasies as long as thy are both consenting. Again we are not talking about actual rape and non-consensual incest. We are talking about role play and fantasy.

oh my god are you????????? serious????????????? first of all girl youre not even an adult stay in your lane with the consenting adult argument also idk how to break this to you i hate to have to be the one to say it but if youre getting off to rape/noncon fantasies you are literally trash there is nothing you can say on this that is going to justify the romanticizing of rape i never thought i’d have to explain this to someone yet here we are

You’re so wrong and you don’t even know it.

wow excuse me, marion “i support the trivialization of traumatizing events as a means to cum” mayer, i actually am very positive im absolutely 100% right and the fact that you cant see this worries me greatly i feel like i need to sit down with ur parents and have a long talk with them and also like you need to go to church this sunday

1. I’m not religious. 2. I never trivialized rape. so…?

girl!!!!! using rape fantasies and role playing as a means to get off is trivializing in one of the HIGHEST DEGREES do not fucking tell me i dont know something about two huge parts of my life

Did it even occur to you that some people might be participating in these things because they are trying to regain control and help themselves heal? As a survivor of rape, roleplaying has helped me quite a lot in dealing with what happened to me.  It gave me a safe environment with someone I trust where I could face what happened and still have control over the situation. If I started to feel even remotely triggered or hurt I’d safeword and everything would stop and we would talk about what happened and made sure I was okay. It gave me a lot of my confidence back. 

I am not the only person who has done this. There are studies that show that roleplay can be extremely helpful for survivors.  

Please stop. I understand, rape is a terrible thing, but fantasy and roleplay are not. Consent is key. 

Let me help out read this: http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/unique-everybody-else/201307/bdsm-personality-and-mental-health

Also I am a consenting adult (over 21 even). I practice BDSM with my significant other. I have also never been with anyone who has treated me with such immense and kindness. I trust him completely. And we talk about everything. When it is too much all it takes is a look a sound, a word, Stop, anything and he stops. Then attends to my needs be it emotional or physical.

I have also been the victim of violent attempted rape. However, because of the intimate relationship I possess with my partner he was able to help me work through some of the “sexual” trauma. (My therapist agrees that our relationship is extremely health because of the required openness.)

If you do not like/agree with Kink in general then do not participate. This does not give you the right to slut shame/kink shame other people because you are not understanding where they come from or why they participate in more flavorful bedroom activities. Please do not be an ass hole. 

Foot in Mouth Disease.

I sometimes wish that this was still middle school and your friends would tell your boyfriend (or what ever the fuck he is supposed to be) what to do to make things better. Because it would be nice if someone would call him up and say “hey so she is having a hard time dealing with life right now and the fact that you are practically dating your best friend makes her a little crazy. you should probably try to reassure her more.”

I sometimes say mean stuff I don’t mean when my feelings are hurt, and basically that means it is time for that “Reassure me and tell me to knock it off times” But of course feelings are already hurt and they don’t want to do anything for you. 

I said sorry…kind of?

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